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Michelle VS's avatar

I liked your article and agreed with so much of what you wrote. I was in an extremely abusive marriage for over 6 years in my early 30s, then left him because he didn’t want kids and am now in a loving marriage for 32 years with a man I admire and respect. It turned out my husband had a daughter so that solved having kids for me and we’re very clear on what we each do in our home. I had a problem with your disdain of maga men, though. All the men I know who are involved in maga are respectful, hard working men with a true enthusiasm for our country. The liberal men I know tend to not be very masculine, are somewhat narcissistic and very self involved. Just my experience.

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David Heninsky's avatar

I’m a husband, father of two, and an Australian living in Milan. I’ve always been fully involved — cooking, cleaning, school runs, bedtime stories, sports, the lot. I read pieces like this and honestly find myself a little baffled, and more than a little sorry, for the women stuck with these tired, outdated models of men. I don’t understand what kind of blokes they end up with, and in America? Seriously? There are so many honest good men, husbands, fathers… Maybe it’s the culture they’re in, where the bar for husbands is set so low you could trip over it. From where I stand, marriage is meant to be a partnership, from day one we shared everything. I have no interest in a book like Liars. Write about good husbands.

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